No such fucking thing. There's only a bunch of twats who think they're holier than thou and have the right to dictate their fake bullshit standards on others. Tell your brother to fuck off. If you need stipulations from family, they ain't family. Has he got your hand up your ass and puppeting every word out of your mouth too? Is he shitting and pissing for you?

Violins. Drag some out and ask someone to play them for you. No one gives a fuck about your failed marriage but you. It's as simple as that.